My New Finish Line

The schools my kids attend closed on March 13th. I don’t remember exactly when the shelter in place order was given because it didn’t change much for us since everything at that point had been cancelled. That order expired yesterday. 48 days. We’re currently out of quarantine, but I don’t feel like we’re truly safe yet. I feel a little like I’m holding my breath still.

The first two weeks were hard. I had no motivation to move much less homeschool my kids or take care of myself. I gained some mental clarity and energy as April rolled in, but all that’s gone now. I’m tired. I’m scared (my husband is in healthcare and high risk), and I’m trying to hold it all together.

Running has been my outlet. I ran 100 miles in April, my biggest total for a month in about 4 years. Physically, I feel fantastic. Mentally, emotionally and spiritually, I’m struggling. I am trying to look forward to putting it all together again and feeling physically, mentally and emotionally whole. Without an actual finish line to cross, that has become my new goal, my new finish line. If only it were a fixed one with a predetermined distance like the marathon I had planned to run in July. Without a better option, that finish line tape lies across the threshold of my front door when I can re-enter the world feeling whole and safe. Happy training to me.

And, happy training to you. I hope you’re able to set a goal and reach it during the difficult times we’re facing right now, even if that goal is to get out of bed, put on fresh clothes, eat a decent breakfast, or to call a friend and ask for help. I hope you can set the goal, crush the goal, and then set a new one all the way to the end of this crisis. I’m routing for you. Go grab that finish line!

Chicken Soup

This is not a food blog. I used to have one, though. It was focused on my autistic son and his food allergies and issues. I had to learn how to cook, and I mean really cook from scratch so that he could have healthy AND yummy food. I blogged about it. Some of my posts were shared more than 10,000 times. It was fun, but he outgrew his allergies and sensitivities. He also had gotten old enough to potentially be embarrassed if I posted something personal. So, I put up the keyboard, and let him tell his own story. Anyway, this is not a food blog, but I thought I would share something that made our COVID journey a little easier, chicken soup.

I prefer to eat vegetarian, but when I’m sick, there’s nothin like good chicken soup. I make my own homemade soup from scratch, and I’ve streamlined the process so that I have it available even when I’m too sick to cook it.

Crockpots with liners

Whole chicken (the flavor is in the bones and skin) boiled until it’s falling off the bone makes the best broth. When I first started cooking soup with whole chickens, I would cook them in my pasta pot with the strainer in. That way I could just lift the chicken up out of the broth and flip it onto a plate to pull the chicken off the bone. No straining or fishing through the broth for bones that way. The pasta pot made it easier, but it would still take half a day to cook it until it was falling off the bone. That’s not feasible when you’re under the weather or just busy, so now I put whole chickens in my slow cookers and cook them on high for about 6 hours. No liquid in with them. This creates a concentrated broth that doesn’t taste bland when you add water. I use slow cooker liners so I can pull the chicken out, cut a hole in the bag and let the broth drain out without having to sift the pot for bones. The broth goes into a freezer safe container, then I pull the chicken meat off the bone and add it to the broth. Let it cool on the counter and freeze it. When I want to make soup, I put the frozen broth in a soup pot, add enough water to cover the block, bring it to a boil, then add whatever seasoning, noodles, dumplings etc. I want for that meal. It’s super easy and really awesome for when the weather gets colder.

Chicken soup base in freezable containers

One of the manifestations of my anxiety comes in over preparation. When things shut down and we were all quarantined, I dealt with some of my internal panic by stock piling soup base and chicken soup in my freezer in single serve and family serve containers. I was able to share with neighbors when they got sick, and we had plenty for us to eat when we got sick. Out of the base, I make chicken and dumplings, chicken tortilla soup and regular chicken noodle soup. The only soup I go ahead and make before I freeze is the chicken noodle.

Chicken soup before freezing

For the chicken soup, I sauté carrots, onions and garlic in butter before adding them to the broth. Then I season it with salt, pepper, a couple bay leaves, thyme, and basil. I just season until it tastes right. Simmer for a little bit just to get the spices and veggies all good and saturated in the broth. Then add the noodles and cook according to directions. I use egg noodles so they hold up well to freezing and reheating. I let this cool and then put it into single serve and family serve containers and freeze it.

Now, I’m not really sharing the recipe for the soup as much as I’m sharing how easy it is to prepare something healthy to rely on if you get corona virus or the flu or any other ailment that would cause you to need some healing soup.

If you don’t get sick, you can share your soup with those around you who may need a little extra love.

Happy running.

Corona came to visit

Pictures of my week back to running and working out post COVID

School closing was hard. Being unable to attend a family funeral was hard. Being stuck in my house for weeks on end was hard. Honestly, being an introvert who covets quiet time at home, you would think I would have enjoyed it more. Of course, there wasn’t much quiet about that time. My house was full. My whole family was restless, and apparently Mom is the boredom cure. I clung to my exercising and running to maintain my sanity, but underneath the surface, my anxiety grew. I struggled.

I struggled with fear of the unknown. Fear of the virus. Fear of the long term effects. It was like going on vacation after finding out a medical test was abnormal. It could be nothing, or it could be something serious and deadly. Not knowing kinda ruins the relaxation and fun of vacation.

So many voices, who do we listen to? I don’t really mean about masks, social distancing and closures. We chose science over politics. My husband is a doctor. We based our information on what he knows about the human body and how novel viruses work. We did what we needed to do. I just mean about everything. Everybody talking at once. There has been zero continuity throughout this whole thing, and that has weighed on me.

We live in one of the first states to open back up. That was both nice and terrifying at the same time. It was exhausting keeping up with all the different recommendations from school, church, my husband’s hospital and office, sports and activities. It was hard. It was nice to be back out with other people, but I was still scared. Scared our governor was wrong. Scared we were headed for another shut down. Scared it would ruin school. And, well, it kinda did ruin school.

We knew people who had died from COVID, and we knew people who had it and had practically no symptoms. It was like this cloud of uncertainty covering every possible activity we were involved in, and then it hit home.

We got it. My husband was patient zero. Then I got it. My youngest child, who is my shadow, got sick right about the same time I did. My other two children had zero symptoms, and we chose not to have them tested. We’re still not sure if they had it and were asymptomatic or if they somehow avoided getting it from us. We are planning to get them antibody tested to see.

My husband got very, very sick. We have an oximeter, and checked our oxygen levels multiple times a day after our positive tests. His oxygen dropped considerably. Never reaching hypoxemia levels, but it was concerning. He had a fever, chills, night sweats. He would cough like he was hacking up a lung. He blew his nose constantly, and had stomach flu symptoms. He lost his appetite completely and got dehydrated. I was certain a few times I would have to figure out how to get him to the hospital by myself, and I was terrified of what that would mean.

My symptoms were mild. I was tired. I had a horrible headache. I felt like I couldn’t get a full breath, and I lost my sense of taste and smell. Other than that, I was fine. No fever. No cough. My nose was a little runny, but I have seasonal allergies, too. So, it’s always runny in September.

We both recovered fine. My husband never had to go to the hospital, and the one child that got symptoms never really progressed beyond feeling icky. My fear of having the virus faded because we had gotten through it, but it was strange rejoining life. Some people were weird. Some avoided us even after the quarantine time had ended. Some used our positive outcome to blow off the seriousness of the virus. And, I returned to running.

It was rough getting back to it. Before we got COVID, I was struggling with my plantar fasciitis and had injured my shoulder. I was just getting back in the game when I got sick. My VO2 Max (via Garmin) had dropped 4 points. I just finished the first full week working out and running. I’m exhausted, but not much more than I would be if I was returning from another illness or an injury. The thing about this return to running is not knowing if this illness caused lung damage, clotting or any of the other dangerous things it could possibly cause because it’s a virus we know little about. I’m no longer afraid of getting the virus, but I’m now afraid of what it did to me that I can’t see.

My brain doesn’t really need a good reason to turn on the anxiety switch, but this whole international health crisis is a bear. I’m looking forward to making progress on my fitness and continuing to beat the effects of this virus proving my anxiety wrong. I’m not sure if that will offer any real relief. Probably not, but I live in a perpetual state of “this next thing will make it all better.” I know that running and exercise is one of the keys to my mental health, and at least I’ll have that.

My heart goes out to all those who are struggling to beat this virus, those who beat the virus but are now living with long term effects, and the families of those who lost their battle. My gratitude goes out to those who are still working in and around this virus, especially those who work to care for the sick and recovering.

I don’t like this new normal, but who does. Acceptance is the first step to change. I will be working on letting this be what it is, so I can move forward to what is next with gratitude and love.

Happy running.


I got sick. Like really, really sick.

I don’t sit much, usually. Always moving. Always doing. I mean, my favorite way to relax is to run, and I love working out. My to do list grows faster than I can check it off, but I keep plugging away in the hopes that one day, it will all get crossed off. My kids are super active in all kinds of things. I’m always going. Always doing.

Over Christmas break, though, I crashed. I could not move. I slept all day for days. I then laid down all day for more days. Before I knew it, I had spent a whole month hardly able to function and eating whatever was available. Just when I thought I was feeling better, it would hit again. I had the usual flu symptoms but also had weird issues with my heart fluttering and my neck and shoulders aching constantly. They would fail me in easy every day activities like pushing myself up from a laying position to sit up. Seriously, they would hurt and then buckle. My heart would suddenly start beating so fast I could feel it in my chest, and I would get light headed and dizzy. I started thinking I had some weird disease or some kind of system failure that was slowly killing me. My husband is a doctor, though, and he wasn’t overly concerned. Whatever. I felt like my whole world was ending. I think he could have been more sympathetic, but that’s a post for another day.

I gained weight. I lost fitness. I started letting go of any hope of keeping resolutions. I felt like a busted can of biscuits every time I tried to wear workout clothes. I hated it, but I couldn’t do anything about it. It was February before I felt like I could breathe well enough to work out.

When I finally got back to the gym, I was emotionally happy to be getting back at it, but my body was in shock. I was wobbly after the workout. When I woke up the next day, I was struggling to climb the stairs or walk my dog. It would be a couple more weeks before I would try again with similar results.

I got back at it for a challenge in April, but I’m still struggling to be consistent. I know much of it has to do with my crazy life and schedule, but why is it so hard to get back to fit after a break? I had to quit working out because I felt like I was dying, and then trying to workout again made me feel like I was dying. It’s always seems to be a lose lose situation.

I decided to do the Runner’s World Summer streak. So, I’ll be running at least a mile every day from now (Memorial Day) until July 4th. I started the streak off with the Murph challenge (full run, half the pushups and pull-ups because I have t-Rex arms), and I’ll finish it with the Peachtree Roadrace. I’m hoping this will jump start more consistency both in my fitness and in life. Who knows, maybe I’ll get back to writing every day. Here’s hoping.

Have you ever had a rough patch that seemed to never end? What did you do to restart?


Our current schedule is so tight I have two options for getting my workouts in:

1. Don’t

2. 5am

Both kinda suck, but the second one sucks less solely on the basis that the workout is still happening. And, it has happened. For a month now, I’ve been hitting all my workouts AND juggling our insane schedule. Big high five for me!

I am no longer struggling to finish. I am not hobbling around for days after. My body has adjusted to the new schedule, and I’m no longer tired all. the. time. Dare I say, I actually like it. There’s still that moment when the alarm goes off and I question just how important that workout is, but conquering that thought and pulling myself out of bed has been life changing. Action conquers more than just fear. It conquers that ‘meh’ voice in your head.

I haven’t quite managed to get my nutrition back on track just yet, though. Getting the workout in has been hard enough. Just thinking about planning + shopping + prepping + cooking + cleaning  x  infinity, it makes me more tired than the workout. That’s next, though. Now that I’ve figured out what I have to do to get the workouts in, i.e. wake up before the rooster is even dreaming about crowing, I’m attempting to formulate a plan to get my nutrition on track for September. If I can get both of these things going at the same time, I feel like I’ll be able to hit my goal of a year end marathon.

Nailing down the nutrition, I think will help me with all the early mornings, too. Caffeine tolerance is a real thing, and I think I’m reaching a point where it will no longer get me through. I think I would be frightened if I added up all the mg of caffeine I consume each day.

Less junk. More real food. Less sugar. More veggies. Less caffeine. More water. Less snoozing. More running.

Hopefully, by October, I’ll be up in the double digits for my runs, and I’ll have my diet dialed in to support the increase in mileage.

5am. Don’t knock it until you’ve tried it, really tried it. It can work.

Runner Implosion

I was registered for my first Ultra in June. I developed tendinitis in my knee in May. The Ultra didn’t happen. What did happen was a lot of time wasting, moping and struggling because I couldn’t do what I wanted to do. I always kind of implode when I get injured before a race. If it’s short, I do it anyway. Like the Peachtree Roadrace, I can run/walk/hobble 6 miles, then complain about the pain while feeling satisfied that I still did the race. I can not hobble along on an injured knee for 30 miles.

I spent a lot of time frustrated that I couldn’t figure out a good work around. Running wasn’t the only banned activity. I couldn’t cycle, row, squat, lunge, jump. Even aqua jogging aggravated my knee. Anything that required repeated bending and/or pushing off. Swimming was my only real option for cardio, and my weight lifting was limited to upper body only. My shoulder started acting up (old injury) after a couple weeks of this new upper body focus, and I had to back off of both of those things, too.

I usually eat really well when I’m training because I can feel it in my performance when I don’t. Very often, the difference between a good run and a bad run is how I choose to fuel my body. When I’m not training, there is no rhyme or reason to my eating habits. It’s all mostly based on convenience, and the fact that I don’t care because I’m unhappy I can’t run.

Unspent energy, bad eating habits, gained weight and a horrible attitude combine to create an implosion that would rival the death of a star. I kind of suck everything and everyone into my black hole. I don’t write. I don’t read. I don’t talk (unless I absolutely have to). I don’t really interact with people. I just binge watch Netflix until I’m needed for something I can’t pass off, like laundry or meals (although, there has been a lot more takeout than I want to admit this summer), driving my kids to all the camps and activities they are doing, or walking my dog.

I like walking my dog. She doesn’t care that I’m injured. She still needs her exercise, and since my husband rarely walks her and my kids aren’t capable of handling her if a rabbit or a squirrel crosses their path, it’s on me. We’ve been walking 3-5 miles a day (two separate walks) throughout the summer. I’m waking up at 6am to get her out before the pavement heats up, and then taking her back out right around sunset after the pavement has had a chance to cool off. Some mornings I mumble and tumble out of bed regretting getting a dog with so much energy, or I grumble and whine, exhausted from the day wishing she would just sleep through our walk time. I’m usually a nicer person when I come back, though, and obviously, she’s a happier dog when she’s getting her exercise. That makes for a nice Netflix snuggle buddy in between walks and crazy teen/preteen boy fights.

I’ve recently started running again. Nothing fast or long, just little bits here and there, and my knee is holding up, with a brace. I wear the brace for walking, too. I’m optimistic about returning to training, and I’ve been looking for an end of the year marathon to shoot for. I can see the end of the black hole, and I’m looking forward to getting back to my level, easy going runner personality.

I keep thinking, there has to be a way to get through an injury without an implosion. When I figure it out, I’ll let you know. Until then, I’m just hoping I can get through a few races before the next injury hits. Fingers crossed.

Action Conquers Fear

It’s been months since I last swam for exercise, for lots of reasons, mostly just time. I told the desk worker that it had been a while. She was encouraging, “Oh, but it will feel so good to get back in the water.” I laughed and told her I was nervous, as if it’s possible to forget how to swim.

I really was nervous, butterflies and everything. I like that they don’t have real mirrors in the locker room, just polished stainless steel plates on the wall. That way I didn’t have to think about how the cap or goggles looked strange, or the suit didn’t fit the same way it did months ago.

Walked past the lifeguards contemplating turning around. I was there with a water aerobics class, but besides them, I was the only person in the pool. I hate that. I can handle being on stage with a spotlight on me, but something about being in a more intimate setting like a room or a class, I get nervous and self conscious. Add to that already being nervous, being in a swim suit in water, being slow and awkward and the only moving object in the pool, I felt like every move was magnified.

It didn’t help that getting into the pool and getting warmed up I felt like a drowning duck. I kinda did forget how to swim.

The girl at the desk was right, though. It did feel good to be back in the water. Well, after the initial shock of the cold enveloping my body when I jumped in. I struggled to get into a rhythm. I felt awkward. I worried it had been too long and I was going to run out of energy way before I had planned to, but I made it through my workout and on with my day feeling fantastic.

I like conquering the voice in my head that tells me I can’t or shouldn’t do something I want or need to do. I like how I feel when I push through with my plan and ignore all the reasons my mind compiles to dissuade me. I like feeling like I am stronger than my fears and excuses. I feel like training my mind and my heart is as important if not more important than training my body. I feel strongest when I conquer and rule myself. Sometimes, you really do have to just do it.

I’ll spend lots more time in the pool while I can’t run, and it will get much less awkward. I’ll get the hang of it again. Then I’ll have to conquer that same negative voice that says I can’t get back in the gym or on the trail. It’s a never ending cycle, but I won’t give in to “I can’t” until I actually physically can’t. Then I’ll just have to find something else to conquer.

My Hero

I wanna tell you a little of this man’s story, and why this last Peachtree Road Race was so very special to me. He doesn’t like it when we make a big deal out of his physical issues, but since this was a physical feat, I just have to. (Just one time, Dad. Because I’m so proud of you.)

He was born significantly premature in the 50’s with a brain injury resulting in limited mobility and other issues on the left side of his body. He endured braces on his legs, dozens of procedures and an extremely painful surgery on his foot and ankle to improve his mobility. His left leg is shorter and responds differently than his right causing a limp. His left arm and hand are twisted to a certain degree causing limited use. He now suffers with arthritis most severe in the joints affected by the surgery. He fractured his hip from a fall requiring surgery. He’s in his 60’s, and has always thought running wasn’t a healthy option for him.

He has always been active and health conscious, though. I remember watching him do push-ups with his good arm growing up not realizing how difficult that actually is. He has always had a “if you don’t use it you lose it” mentality, and with his condition, carrying extra bodyweight meant less mobility for him. So, I don’t ever remember him being much overweight, if any, my whole life. (I remember him talking about being overweight and having to do something about it, but I don’t actually remember that.) He walks miles and miles on the job site (he’s an engineer), and nowadays he’s keeping up with men half his age.

He has always been very supportive and interested in my running adventures. When no one else wants to hear about another race or training program, he would listen with enthusiasm. One of the races he loved to hear about the most was the Peachtree Road Race. A 10k in his hometown of Atlanta. He grew up not too far from the start line of this race, and since it started, he has always wanted to run it. But, given his mobility issues, he didn’t think he could.

Last year, when I was giving him a run down of my race, I told him he should run it. Seriously, there are people who walk it for the tshirt and the beer. He could totally do it. I offered to gift him a membership into the Atlanta Track Club and a guaranteed entry into the PRR as his Father’s Day present. All he had to do was train for it and run a qualifying race so we got a decent coral. No X coral with a 9:30am start time in the Georgia summer heat.

He could have listened to all the voices he’s heard throughout the course of his life telling him he would never be an athlete, that he would never run. He could have listened to the aches and pains he faces on a daily basis. He could have been self conscious about the way he (thinks he) looks when he runs. He has real legitimate excuses, but when it would have made all the sense in the world to say no, he said yes. He committed to the training. He pushed through the uncomfortable starting period. He read some books I gave him, and found that he loved running. He also figured out that all those voices telling him he couldn’t do it were wrong.

This man has long been my hero for so many reasons, but watching him overcome so much to accomplish this goal and run the Peachtree with me, it warranted sharing.

He is now a runner. My dad is a runner, and I can’t tell you how happy I am to be able to say that. Now when we talk about running, it goes both ways. We can both talk about our training and our races and our plans… and our injuries.

Thank you, Dad, for your example and your support. You really are my hero.

Forget Diamonds, my Dog is my Best Friend

I have a Rhodesian Ridgeback, and she’s fantastic! Growing up, we rescued every dog we had except the second one. She was a pure bred Beagle named Princess, and someone stole her from us. Very sad. Our first dog was some kind of Aussie mix, but he had an unhealthy need to chase cars. He lived with three legs for a while because of his obsession, and eventually got around our defenses to meet his demise under the wheels of a car. After that, we had all kinds of dogs. One my dad spent a few weeks coaxing out of hiding. She finally gave in and let him follow her after having puppies in an old barn in the woods. We found homes for all her puppies, and she lived with us for about 8 years after that. Her name was Bear because that’s what my toddler brother thought she was when he saw her for the first time. We had another fantastic dog we rescued after someone threw her out of a moving truck. Just tossed her out going about 45-50 miles an hour. People are stupid. Anyway, she lived with my parents longer than I did, about 20 years (Chihuahua/Boston Terrier mix). We named her Cherry. We rescued a Collie trying to get into the trash behind a grocery store, scooped a little Lab mix puppy right off the interstate, and took in a Golden Retriever after her owner died. I kinda thought that’s just how you found the best dogs, really they found you.

My husband isn’t really an animal person. We didn’t have any pets until well after our kids were out of diapers. Mostly because we lived in an apartment that didn’t allow pets, then the babies came before we moved to our own house. I knew all the puppy stuff would be on me, and I wasn’t wiping human butts and cleaning up doggie poop at the same time. When we decided it was time to get a dog, he was super hesitant to rescue one. So, we talked to breeders, and found a Ridgeback puppy that was the cutest thing. She had been rejected by her original buyers because there was something wrong with her toe (ended up needing an amputation), and we got her at a discount. I called her my discount puppy until the amputation cost hit. She is now the most expensive animal I have ever owned, and I had horses growing up. 😉

Every dollar was worth it, though. I’m not exaggerating when I say she’s fantastic. She doesn’t chew furniture. She doesn’t have accidents in the house. She’s pretty chill unless you’re visiting for the first time or you’re the FedEx guy. Her only vices are food and trimming toe nails. The food thing is mostly the breed. We were warned. And, I can’t really blame her for her issues with her feet. She went through a lot with her toe. She’s my shadow most days, following me around, laying at my feet. I could not imagine our lives without her. She’s my favorite child. 😉

I really need to get one of those nanny cams to watch her when we’re not home because she does the craziest things. She can open a bottle — soda, chocolate milk, anything personal size that she’s not supposed to have — without destroying it, hold it with her paws and lick the contents out with her super long anteater tongue. We had to change the door knobs on our closets and pantry from oblong to sphere because she figured out how to open them. She can crawl into and wrap herself in a blanket like a taco. Cutest thing ever. She can jump higher than my head. She likes to close doors. She will walk into a room, turn around and close the door. We have to make sure we close the doors of rooms we don’t want her to get trapped in before we leave because this is such a problem. I think this is partially due to her love to make music with door stops. We have removed or replaced the springy annoying things because of her obsession. And, there are days I swear she knows exactly what I’m saying, like she speaks English.

One day recently, she faked an injury. I guess she decided she had been stuck in the house and neighborhood for too long and wanted to take a ride. I woke up, got the kids up, and was going about my morning routine. When I went to feed her, she limped to her bowl with her head down. After she ate, I asked her to come to me. She limped over and sat down. She limped when my husband called her. She limped when my daughter called her. It was her foot with the amputation. I was concerned, but couldn’t figure out what she could have done to it over night. She sleeps by my bed, and as far as I know, she was there all night. I took the kids to school, and when I came back, it was worse. She wouldn’t get up off the couch to greet me. She wasn’t following me around. It was SO weird. I called the vet and took her in. The very second we entered the clinic, the limp was gone. She was jumping and twisting, something she does when she greets people. It’s a little like her tail and her face want to reach you at the same time, and she moves toward you in a twisty sideways motion. I decided to leave her with them to see if after she calmed down from all the excitement, the limp would return and they could examine her better. It never came back. Because she was weight bearing and showed no distress in her excitement, they decided it couldn’t be serious like a break or anything and I should just watch her to see if it continued at home. I decided she was a little stinker who faked an injury to get out of the house.

Some days I’m not sure who is smarter, her or me, but I know she probably loves me more than I could ever love her. That’s just how dogs are. That does’t mean I won’t be giving her a run for her money, though, even when she faked injuries for a very expensive ride to the vet.

Dog Food with Cheese on It

Before Christmas, I was in the kitchen — working on dinner or the dishes or any number of other never-ending tasks I feebly attempt to accomplish every day, my husband was in the living room, and my daughter was bouncing back and forth between us. The conversation went something like this.

“Mom, Dad wanted me to ask you what you want for Christmas, but I’m not supposed to tell you he sent me to ask you.”

Laughing a little as I reply. “Ok. Our secret. Hmm. How about a spotlessly clean and organized house.”

She leaves the kitchen and comes back. “He said to ask again.”

“How about a week off. I don’t have to drive, cook, grocery shop, laundry or laying out clothes, etc. How about that?”

This time she comes back shaking her head. “What do you really want for Christmas?”

“How about everybody eats what I want to eat for a week?”

She didn’t even go relay the message this time. She just looked at me, arms crossed shaking her head, “Eww. For real, Mom.”

I think I asked for a new Swell and a Starbucks gift card which she happily reported, and I’m pretty sure my favorite present was a new Garmin watch. So, the hubs didn’t fail at his gift giving task.

My main requests, however, were not within the realm of possibility, at least not in this stage of life. It’s funny how that works, right? As you get older, the things you want aren’t really things. You find yourself chasing a feeling or a state of being over something shiny and new. I just wanted to relax, to wholly decompress and let go, which to be honest, even if my husband had been able to grant any of those requests, I would still be stressed. I would stress out about whether everything is getting done right and/or feel guilty that I had checked out.

Anyway, that last request, the one she poo pooed before even relaying it, that’s the one I think I would love the most. I am most definitely a food agnostic. I don’t believe there is one right way to eat, but I do believe there are certain principles in eating that are universally good for all humans. It’s really hard to get kids to eat that way. It may be even harder to get my husband to eat that way. I would love not having to stress about pleasing everyone’s personal taste on top of trying to make a meal healthy. That one stress is probably one of the biggest stresses in my life. If everyone would just eat what I eat, I wouldn’t have to worry about it.

The problem is that I eat weird food.

I made a makeshift version of huevos rancheros for lunch one day (pictured above). My daughter looked at it while I was preparing it. It was pretty much just beans, sautéed salsa veggies and cheese over a tortilla. I hadn’t put the avocados, egg, hot sauce or sour cream on top yet, although I don’t know that that would have changed her reaction much. She looked at it and told me it looked like dog food with cheese on top.

Of course, this child doesn’t eat cheese, anything with tomatoes in it (including pizza), eggs, oatmeal, any kind of bean, anything green except green beans and sweet peas, etc. The list is exhausting. She won’t eat tacos or sandwiches. What do you feed a kid who doesn’t eat tacos or sandwiches? How did I grow this child inside me and she not like tacos? Was she switched at birth?

My middle child was allergic to Milk, Soy, Corn and Eggs for the first decade of his life. It was easier to feed him than her. Incidentally, he’s my best eater now. I think because he spent so much of his life being told he couldn’t have things, now he’ll eat ANYTHING.

My oldest is pretty adventurous, but he’s not big on some of the easiest things I cook. He likes fancy. So, he’s disappointed often.

I’ve thought about meal or menu planning services, but inevitably, I get to looking and can’t find a plan that has meals my family will eat. I mentioned before that I’ll eat anything. Anything except eggplant, shellfish and sea buckthorn. So, I’d be good with pretty much any of it. The rest of the people in my house, not so much.

I plan and prep and go through the week, but it never fails that someone will complain about what I made and how I made it. Then there are the nights that we’re too busy, and we just get takeout. That’s when my middle guy asks me when I’m gonna cook again because he likes my food better than whatever we picked up. Cue the melting heart, but I can’t win.

I like my “dog food with cheese on top.” Some day, that’s all I’ll have to worry about, right? What I’m gonna eat. My husband can fend for himself at that point because I’m not catering to an adult picky eater for the rest of my life.

Some day, they’ll come home all grown up, and I’ll cook each of them all their favorite foods without complaint because I’ll want them to want to be home with me, right? But, right now, I just need to get through the week without throwing up my hands and telling them to just go fix a bowl of cereal.